Jennifer Chain, Ph.D.

Have you ever felt empty? Deprived or alone? Or unworthy and lonely as a giver, fixer, or helper? The emptiness you encounter is the space of your unsatisfied inner self. You observe the mental health effects of how much you give to others. It's hard to meet your needs and priorities when caring for yourself and sharing your emotions. You might feel an all-consuming emptiness. You feel need to rely on others or ask for help when you're out of energy. It's hard for you to practice self-control or stop working until you're exhausted. It's tough to be kind and loving. However, you don't know how to treat yourself with the same respect and courtesy. You experience compassion towards yourself. You are often critical, angry, and resigned to feeling like you're falling short of your aims. You think, "I have a secret that makes me happy and connects with others.” Maybe it isn't. The most popular topic is: "When people genuinely know me, they don't like me; they abandon me." You seem terrible. But you're not the only one. You're not the only one who thinks that. You may learn this thinking mode and change it. You may be tired of feeling this way by the end of the article. Work on perfectionism, impostor syndrome, perfectionionist tendencies, and self-sabotage. Maybe you have a history of emotional neglect or childhood trauma that led you to be this way. Physicality and food habits problems may be affecting you. You want to escape the burden of shame and guilt.